Realize that this is the real question: Is "not working and staying at home" worth the cost for your future "husband"? In other words, figure out what your future "husband" would want and you are all set. The answer is obvious because "your life" will be "his"...what does "he" want?)

Just kidding...

If he's really unconfortable with the idea, he shoudn't buy one. But if he's driving an SUV...

I read somewhere that during the black plague, it was thought that a diamond would protect you against it, so you would give it to the one you loved.

Posted by: Richard Lehoux on August 14, 2002 09:52 AM

 

Well said re your "what does she want?" comment. The Metafilter thread on this subject, with all its demeaning self-righteousness, made me sick.

Regardless of the factors that led to present-day demand, my new fiancee wanted a beautiful diamond ring, and now she has one. What more is there to consider?

Posted by: David Wertheimer on August 15, 2002 01:28 PM

 

I didn't want a diamond when I got married, but not for any moral issue. They just seem kind of plain to me. I know I am in a small minority w/ this opinion.

I wanted a colored gem set into a beautiful (but understated) ring. The size of the gem or the expense on the ring was not the issue, but the design was. Fortunately, he got it spot-on correct. The thoughtfulness of the effort he put in meant so much more to me than having a big rock I could flash at my friends. Everytime someone said "Wow, that's a rather simple ring, isn't it?" (meaning, I assume, that it was not a big diamond) I would very proudly say, "Yes!"

Posted by: Lydia on August 15, 2002 03:56 PM