Posting Date: September 30, 2003
WebWord Comment -- I wish more people were as honest as my parents. It would make the world a better place, even though the truth can hurt.
“The truth hurts”…I think it’s worth noting that the “truth” of what any person believes to know, is very often at odds with the “truth” of others (which seems a bit counter to the intention of truth…probably the point I’m trying to make). One could be quite mean spirited, prone to self-satisfying but unconscious confabulations, and speak out quite honestly in ways that don’t make the world a better place.
I think being honest is only as good as the probability of truth in your claims…but honestly, I’m probably wrong.
I hate to be the one to break this to you John, but you're adopted.
The cryptic statement blog format is among the most unusable patterns out there. Context is always helpful. If you can't provide it, you should probably not post an entry.
If it's not cryptic and you're just expressing something, then perhaps you could elaborate to make it less Miss America-ish.
Was that as truthful as your parents? Or did I overshoot?
Bill, once in while I feel the need to just say certain things for myself. It was a selfish posting. So, your comments are entirely fair. Context is critical, almost always.
Context is everything. But, now and again, it's nice to have a non-sequitur.
Besides... who's blog is this?
Matthew: Wait, did I miss some policy that says that comments were only for praise and harmony? I don't think so. I made a suggestion and a criticism that he could take or he could leave. That's it.
Who's comments are these?
Heh. The comments belong to the ether.
Are you refering to the personal kind of honesty where your parents are unraveling for you their own secrets and emotions or the more popular form of honesty where people are always willing to speak (honestly) about their feelings about someone else?
A wrote: "Are you refering to the personal kind of honesty where your parents are unraveling for you their own secrets and emotions or the more popular form of honesty where people are always willing to speak (honestly) about their feelings about someone else?"
The core answer is that my parents are willing and able to explain to me exactly how they feel. If you ask them questions, they'll give you honest answers. I tend to forget that they are like that.
My parents don't keep secrets although they might not necessarily blurt out what they are thinking. They try to be open and flexible, although I understand that it might not seem that way.
Sometimes we forget how easy it is to give feedback and how open we need to be when we receive it. I have to constantly remind myself of this, working in the usability field i.e. its always important to put yourself in the shoes of your users. I think a large part of feedback is being honest, but wraping it in a way that your target audience can understand more easily.
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Most of us have to deal with the fact that we are always going to get less than total honesty from our parents because they always feel that they must protect us. My parents, for example, take that one step too far and offer very little "honesty". I admire you for being open and reflective here. I'm sorry if some of the other subscribers who are used to your more"on topic" posts feel let down.
Why does anyone need honest parents when they have Uncle Jakob? He's going to save the world, you know.